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But especially during exam times, you feel under a lot of pressure due to the heavy workload and the tight timing of exams? In our consultations, many students report self-doubt, fear of failure, procrastination, psychosomatic complaints and other stressors that rob them of their strength. It is all the more amazing that often even small changes lead to a new, different way of dealing with exams. With the following videos, we would like to inspire you to reflect on previous patterns of thinking and behavior, and encourage you to develop your own possible solutions and try out new ways. The following eight videos cover the topics stress development, attitude work, motivation, body orientation, information processing, learning conditions, learning planning and learning techniques.

You can find the complete playlist on our YouTube channel.

At the Lübeck location, we offer you university-independent, confidential and free coaching on your challenges in the areas of learning/technique, motivation/decisions and performance/self-regulation.

We support you individually and solution-oriented, for example in:

• Improving your own learning and working behavior
• Increasing your motivation and concentration
• Overcoming test anxiety with mental training
• Development of blackout prevention/intervention
• Reduction of stress and tension
• Strengthening your self-confidence in learning and exam situations

During the coaching we will work out different approaches together with you, from which you can choose the variant that is most feasible for you.

You are facing exams with unease and are looking for strategies to approach the exam phase more calmly? Do you want to improve your preparation and learning strategies? Then this is the right workshop for you!

Continuous entry and exit possible.

You can find the next dates in our overview below.

Sexualised violence takes place not only in the private sphere, but in many areas of our society. Relationships of dependency encourage sexualised violence, which is why sexualised violence also occurs at universities. Students experience sexualised violence from university staff or other students; on campus, in halls of residence or at parties. We have noticed that the topic is becoming increasingly present in the counselling sessions at Studentenwerk SH.

The Studentenwerk SH would like to counteract sexualised violence on campus through educational work. As a responsible service provider, the Studentenwerk is committed to providing students with information and support. By raising awareness of this issue, we hope to encourage mindful and respectful interaction with one another.

What is sexualised violence?

Sexualised violence is any intentional sexual act, whether physical, verbal or non-verbal, that is carried out against the will of the person concerned.

Examples of sexualised violence

• Disparaging, suggestive, scrutinising looks
• whistling
• offensive jokes
• derogatory/sexist remarks and insults about appearance, behaviour and private life
• Showing pornographic images
• unwanted invitations, approaches by letter or e-mail
• unwanted touching
• A "no" is not accepted
• Criminal offences such as stalking, sexual coercion, assault, rape

Forms of sexualised violence also include

• sexualised admission rituals at universities (e.g. chain of clothes until everyone is in underwear or naked)
• Advertising for student events with pornographic word and/or image content
• Names of student associations/groups/teams (e.g. FC Siewillja football club)

Sexualised violence violates the principle of equal treatment and is an attack on the dignity and personal rights of those affected.

What is ok?

Everything that is fun for both sides:

• Friendly compliments
• Flirting (e.g. eye contact, small talk, smiling)
• Going out together

Everyone has their own personal boundaries.

Sexualised violence begins where boundaries are crossed. The subjective perception of the person affected is decisive in the assessment of sexualised violence.

Sexualised violence is always one-sided behaviour that is fundamentally different from flirting or compliments and often leads to stress, insecurity, discomfort, anxiety, depression and psychosomatic complaints in those affected, resulting in reduced performance or failure.

For fear of being seen as prudish, sensitive or humourless, many victims deny or gloss over sexualised violence. If those affected dismiss assaults, treat them jokingly, adapt to the behaviour of the harasser or ignore the assault, perpetrators will feel encouraged in their behaviour and may assault again.

There is no justification for sexualised violence or sexual boundary violations. Perpetrators are guilty, those affected have the right to defend themselves and get help.

What can you do to protect yourself?

• Be self-confident (clear speech, upright posture).
• Avoid dark, deserted paths at night.
• Go out in pairs or in a group (to parties, through the night, to consultation hours, ...).
• Inform others of your whereabouts.
• Make a phone call if you are alone and feel uncomfortable (on the bus, in the dormitory kitchen, ...).
• Be aware of your surroundings.

What can you do in an emergency?

• Take your feelings seriously and trust your gut instinct.
• Realise that you are not to blame.
• Leave the situation, if possible.
• Tell the person that you feel harassed by them and give clear instructions: e.g. "Take your hand off my leg!"
• Say loudly: "No!"
• Address the person who is assaulting you - outsiders will recognise that this is not a private dispute.
• Fight back physically by shouting, kicking or hitting.
• Draw the attention of others present to the assault. Speak to them directly and get their support, e.g. "You there in the red mackintosh, I need your help." Or "Please call the police."
• Inform the police and press charges.
• Talk about the experience with someone you trust.
• Document the experience in writing as soon as possible.
• Contact a counselling centre.

Have you experienced an assault? Then dial 110 and report it to the police!

What can witnesses do?

• Stand by the person affected, speak to them and offer help
• Look and don't look away
• Call the police in an emergency and never put yourself in danger
• Be available as a witness

If you need help now and have experienced an assault:

• Police: 110
• Violence against women helpline: 08000 116 016 (around the clock, anonymous, free of charge, in 17 languages)
• Confidential forensics of the UKSH forensic medicine department: 0431 500 15 -901/-902 (free, anonymous, possible without reporting to the police, throughout SH)
• Women's refuge in your city

If you have questions, feel uncomfortable with your experience or need help:

Sexual abuse helpline: 0800 22 55 530

Women's helplines

• Kiel: 0431 9 11 44
• Lübeck: 0451 70 46 40
• Flensburg: 0461 90 90 82 00
• Heide: 0481 64 159

All women's helplines are also counselling centres that you can contact without an emergency.

Specialist counselling centres

• Kiel

Counselling for men affected by violence: 0431 911 24

Counselling centre "Die Lerche" of the women's shelter: 0431 67 54 78

• Lübeck

Women's counselling centre biff: 0451 70 60 202

• Flensburg

Profamilia: 0461 90 92 640

Counselling centre Wage courage: 0461 90 92 630

• Heide

Community psychiatric centre: 0481 7850

All services can be used by people of any gender.

Counselling services directly at some universities

• Kiel, University

Women's helpline - consultation hours on campus BAStA: 0160 9567 6434

Equal Opportunities Officer Dr Iris Werner: 0431 880 1651

Diversity Officer Eddi Steinfeldt-Mehrtens: 0431 880 7000

• Kiel, FH

Women's emergency hotline - consultation hours at the BAStA campus: 0431 210 1888

Equal Opportunities Officer Dr Marike Schmeck: 0431 210 1880

• Lübeck, University

Women's helpline - consultation hours on campus: 0451 70 46 40

KoBAS - Conflict Counselling & Anti-Discrimination Office Dr Solveig Simowitsch: 0451 3010 1220

• Lübeck, TH

Women's emergency hotline - consultation hours on campus: 0451 70 46 40

Equal Opportunities Officer Dr Daphne Reim: 0451 300 5600

• Flensburg, University

Equal Opportunities Officer Martina Spirgatis: 0461 805 2762

• Flensburg, HS

Equal Opportunities Officer Jolyn Muijse: 0461 805 1383