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But especially during exam times, you feel under a lot of pressure due to the heavy workload and the tight timing of exams? In our consultations, many students report self-doubt, fear of failure, procrastination, psychosomatic complaints and other stressors that rob them of their strength. It is all the more amazing that often even small changes lead to a new, different way of dealing with exams. With the following videos, we would like to inspire you to reflect on previous patterns of thinking and behavior, and encourage you to develop your own possible solutions and try out new ways. The following eight videos cover the topics stress development, attitude work, motivation, body orientation, information processing, learning conditions, learning planning and learning techniques.

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At the Lübeck location, we offer you university-independent, confidential and free coaching on your challenges in the areas of learning/technique, motivation/decisions and performance/self-regulation.

We support you individually and solution-oriented, for example in:

• Improving your own learning and working behavior
• Increasing your motivation and concentration
• Overcoming test anxiety with mental training
• Development of blackout prevention/intervention
• Reduction of stress and tension
• Strengthening your self-confidence in learning and exam situations

During the coaching we will work out different approaches together with you, from which you can choose the variant that is most feasible for you.

You are facing exams with unease and are looking for strategies to approach the exam phase more calmly? Do you want to improve your preparation and learning strategies? Then this is the right workshop for you!

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You can find the next dates in our overview below.

Sexualised violence does not only take place in the private sphere, but in many areas of our society. Relationships of dependency favour sexualised violence, which is why sexualised violence also occurs at universities. Students experience sexualised violence from university staff or other students; on campus, in the hall of residence or at parties. We notice that the topic is becoming more and more present in the counselling sessions of the Studentenwerk SH.

The Studentenwerk SH would like to counteract sexualised violence on campus through educational work. As a responsible service provider, the Studentenwerk feels obliged to provide students with information and support. By raising awareness of this issue, we hope to promote a mindful and respectful approach to each other.

What is sexualised violence?

Sexualised violence is any intentional sexual act, whether physical, verbal or non-verbal, that is carried out against the will of the person concerned.

Examples of sexualised violence:

• derogatory, insinuating, probing looks
• whistling
• insinuating jokes
• derogatory/sexist remarks and insults about appearance, behaviour and private life
• Showing pornographic images
• Unwanted invitations, approaching by letter, email
• unwanted touching
• a "no" is not accepted
• Criminal offences such as stalking, sexual assault, bodily harm, rape.

Forms of sexualised violence also include

• sexualised admission rituals at universities (e.g. chain of dresses until everyone is in underwear or naked)
• Advertising for student events with pornographic word and/or image content
• Names of student associations/groups/teams (e.g. football club FC Siewillja)

Sexualised violence violates the principle of equal treatment and is an attack on the dignity and personal rights of those affected.

What is ok?

Everything that is fun for both sides:

• friendly compliments
• flirting (e.g. eye contact, small talk, smiling at someone)
• going out together

Everyone has their own personal boundaries.

Sexualised violence begins where boundaries are crossed. The subjective feeling of the person concerned is decisive in the assessment of sexualised violence.

Sexualised violence is always one-sided behaviour that is fundamentally different from flirting or compliments and often leads to stress, insecurity, malaise, anxiety, depression as well as psychosomatic complaints and consequently to reduced or failed performance in those affected.

Out of fear of being considered prudish, sensitive or humourless, many victims deny or gloss over sexualised violence. If victims dismiss assaults, treat them jokingly, adapt to the behaviour of the harasser or ignore the assault, perpetrators will feel encouraged in their behaviour and may assault again.

There is no justification for sexual violence or sexual violations of boundaries. Perpetrators are guilty, victims have the right to defend themselves and get help.

What can you do to protect yourself?

• Be confident (speak clearly, stand up straight).
• Avoid dark, deserted paths at night.
• Go out in pairs or in a group (to parties, through the night, to the doctor's office, ...).
• Inform others of your whereabouts.
• Make a phone call if you are alone and feel uncomfortable (on the bus, in the dormitory kitchen, ...).
• Be aware of your surroundings.

What can you do in an emergency?

• Take your feelings seriously and trust your gut feeling.
• Realise that you are not to blame.
• Walk away from the situation, if possible.
• Tell the person that you feel harassed by them and give clear instructions: e.g. "Take your hand off my leg!"
• Say loudly, "No!"
• Address the person who is assaulting you - this way outsiders will recognise that it is not a private dispute.
• Physically defend yourself by shouting, kicking, hitting.
• Call the attention of others to the assault. Speak to them specifically and get their support, e.g. "You in the red mackintosh, I need your help. Or "Please call the police."
• Inform the police and file a complaint.
• Talk about the experience with a trusted person.
• Document the experience in writing in a timely manner.
• Contact a counselling centre.

Have you experienced an assault? Then dial 110 and file a complaint with the police!

What can witnesses do?

• Stand by the affected person, talk to him/her and offer help.
• Look and don't look away
• Call the police in an emergency and never put yourself in danger.
• Be available as a witness

If you need help now and have experienced an assault:

• Police: 110
• Violence against women helpline: 08000 116 016 (round the clock, anonymous, free of charge, in 17 languages)
• Confidential forensics of the UKSH's forensic medicine department: 0431 500 15 -901/-902 (free of charge, anonymous, possible without reporting to the police, throughout SH)
• Women's shelter in your town

If you have questions, feel uncomfortable with your experience or need help:

Sexual abuse help line: 0800 22 55 530

Women's emergency hotlines

• Kiel: 0431 9 11 44
• Lübeck: 0451 70 46 40
• Flensburg: 0461 90 90 82 00
• Heide: 0481 64 159

All women's emergency centres are also counselling centres that you can turn to without an emergency.

Specialist counselling centres

• Kiel

Counselling for male victims of violence: 0431 911 24

Counselling centre "Die Lerche" of the women's shelter: 0431 67 54 78

• Lübeck

Women's counselling centre biff: 0451 70 60 202

• Flensburg

Profamilia: 0461 90 92 640

Wagefulness counselling centre: 0461 90 92 630

• Heide

Community Psychiatric Centre: 0481 785 2043

All services are available to people of any gender.

Counselling services directly at some universities

• Kiel, University

Women's emergency hotline - office hours at the BAStA campus: 0160 9567 6434

Equal Opportunities Officer Dr. Iris Werner: 0431 880 161

Diversity Officer Eddi Steinfeldt-Mehrtens: 0431 880 7000

• Kiel, University of Applied Sciences

Women's Emergency Hotline - office hours at the BAStA campus: 0431 210 1888

Equal Opportunities Officer Dr. Marike Schmeck: 0431 210 1880

• Lübeck, University

Women's emergency hotline - office hours on campus: 0451 70 46 40

KoBAS - Conflict Counselling & Anti-Discrimination Office Dr. Solveig Simowitsch: 0451 3010 1220

• Lübeck, TH

Women's Emergency Hotline - office hours on campus: 0451 70 46 40

Equal Opportunities Officer Dr. Daphne Reim: 0451 300 5600

• Flensburg, Uni

Equal Opportunities Officer Martina Spirgatis: 0461 805 2762

• Flensburg, HS

Equal Opportunities Officer Jorma Heier: 0461 805 1383